Thoughts from seminars

Yesterday, I went to the last session of a parish renewal seminar. The program taught us how to get in touch with divine being. There are a few things that really caught my heart and I learnt and saw my life differently because of them.

The first one is that in this life we have to have goals. This might sound simple and easily understand, but sometimes we forget this. At one time, we can have many goals in different areas and in order to be a successful "human being" ( as it is said by Father Justin), we have to be able to balance our goals. More specifically, what I get from this is that the theory also applies to relationship. In a relationship, two people are trying to fit into each other life's, but yet they are two different people with different backgrounds and importantly goals. The only way to make the relationship successful is to have the same goals. When you have the same goals, then you can work to achive them together. Without common goals, a couple will only get further apart from each other and thus resulting in breaking up.

The second one is positive attitude. It might sound simple to just say it, but tell you truly that it is extremely hard to do. I think the most important things are to value yourself and realised that you are unique and also to think positively about others. It is really hard to do. There was one time when I did it successfully. I learnt how to see only the good things in people. Well, not completely ignoring their bads, but trying to tell myself that even though they have their bads, they are still beautiful and unique in their own ways. I did it BEFORE, but for some reasons, I am failed now. I changed and started to see things negatively. It is not good, but it happened to me and from this seminar, I realised of what I did. I turned myself in the wrong direction. Now, I want to turn it back. To think positively about others.

The third one is to love. Your life is not about being right but about loving. This caught my heart too and I realised that I was always trying to be right and concentrating on that within my family, within my friends circle and even in my past relationship. When I was doing that, I forgot to love them. I was concentrating on putting my ideas up and telling them that mine are the correct ones. I forgot that I am supposed to love them, not to force my ideas on them.

Thinking back about these, I realised that there are a lot of things that I wish I can change, but they are my past now and I cannot turn back. The only way I can correct myself is to turn myself into the right way and hopefully everything will be better.

Love and hate

People said love and hate are separated by a very thin line. Once you step through the line, you are in different region. I think it is true. You will not hate someone unless you love the person in the first place. And when you hate someone, you will keep thinking about the person and finally you see them differently and love them. There is an insignificant border between love and hate. Can you sit on the fence between the two, where you love someone, but yet you hate the person?

Education vs. Mr/Mrs Right

One day I was talking to my friend and we were talking about relationship and how the percentage of divorce has been increasing now. We were wondering what are supposed to be done to know who is Mr/Mrs Right for oneself. Suddenly she told me that one of her friend came into a conclusion saying like this "education is not good for love. the higher you go in education level, the more clueless you are about love. You forget to use your heart and you use more brains more often". I might be agreeing to this, except that I have been using my heart before and I thought I found my Mr. Right. However, things didn't go the way I thought it would. I gave everything for him and listened to my heart. At the end, I left with tears everyday because of him. Now I am wondering if I should be listening to my brain, should I?

Keep going and don't look back

Sometimes we have to make decisions. It will never be easy but one thing to be remembered is that once we made the decisions, stick with it and don't look back. It may not be an easy choice that we take, but there is no time to regret. So instead of regreting what we have made, why don't we keep going with our lives, and think about what we are going to do with the next decision we need to make. The world is not waiting for you to finish regreting what you have made. The world keeps going, so you should too.

Jack of all trades, master of none

I was talking to my sisters yesterday about a lot of stuff. Then somehow she said about this sentence ' Jack of all trades master of none'. This actually reminds me to instropect myself and the results are that I know lately I have been acting like one. I mean I did a lot of stuff without actually mastering all of them rightly. This is actually a good reminder so that now I am thinking to stop and think first and decide what do I actually want. I don't want to be ' Jack of all trades master of none'. It is better to learn specific things but being good at them rather than being able to do a million things but only up to a basic level.
Once more time, don't be a 'Jack of all trades master of none'.

Happiness

Why do you want to have the whole world when you have no one to share it with? What a lonely life you are having there. You will be happier when you have someone to share your achievement no matter how small it is and when you have someone who is proud of you. Happiness doesn't equal to having the whole world, but equals to having someone to share and be proud of who you are.

Study break??!!

Finally the semester has ended. Should I be happy or sad? I don't know=(
Study break is starting now...What a wonderful long weekend except that I have to do my study. Really hope that instead of studying, I can do something more fun, but yeah...No choice here. Have to struggle a bit more before I can enjoy my holiday.
I really hope I did more throughout the semester but I didn't. That is why I find it so struggling now when exams come. So much to study and so many smart people in my classes. This means I have to make sure that I will not get too low mark and get even lower when it is scaled down. OMG I really hope I did my study before. But now it's all too late to regret.
Well,....this is the lesson for the future. Don't be slack or you have to work harder when exams come=p
Can't wait till holz....=)

A broken heart

A heart that is broken will never be put back together again perfectly...
Just like a vase, when you broke it, you might try to put them back together again but no matter how hard you try, you would never get it back to the perfect, original shape. Someone told me '...but you can make the broken vase something else that is equally pretty'. True...but it will be something different with different meaning unto it.
The same thing with a relationship where a heart has been broken. You can't make it perfect anymore even if you try to put the heart back together. If you want to make it something different, then it will not be your relationship anymore right? What do you think?=p

What you know vs Who you know

I just remember that yesterday when I went for the interview practice, someone mentioned that it seems like nowadays 'who you know' is more important than 'what you know'. Is that right? I questioned myself about this question. How much do we have to know to make us survive in this cruel world? In this highly competitive world, sometimes it seems that it is important to have some connections. Even though I myself believe that everything depends on you, somehow having good connections with the right people will also help making your way smoother. Still you have to know what you are doing in order to persuade your networkers that you are worth their time and investment. So 'what you know' and 'who you know' are equally important. Remember that you live in a world where people are connected to each other in one way or the other. Having good connections and relationships with others will certainly help you in the present or future.

Forgiving

Lately, I have seen and taught how important forgiveness is. As humans, we will not be perfect. We will somehow make mistakes, either big or small, but to love someone is to be able to forgive that person's mistakes and give him/her a chance to improve, to amend that mistakes. The most important thing is to truly forgiving, not just saying ' oh yeah I will give you a chance' but inside your heart you will still remember it and use it in the future to blame him/her back for the mistakes. It is not easy. And the question is have I been able to do so? To forgive someone without remembering it back when one made mistakes again? It is something that I have to ask myself and reflect on the question....

Interview

I had interview practice today and I didn't prepare much for it. However, from there I got some feedbacks and I would like to list a few so that I can reflect back on it and probably it will be useful for those reading my blog too. Here we go:
1. Well presented-- time for dressing up guys....Take out ur best clothes, put a bit of make up ( to make it pretty, even though you are probably pretty enough=P)
2. Confidence-- necessary even though you are nervous, don't lose it
3. Good eye contact-- they get your point more when you make eye contact i believe
4. Speak clearly with loud or hearable voice and put a bit of tone-- don't make them work harder by trying to get what you said
5. Use natural gesture-- this helps to make your point
6. DON'T SPEAK TOO LONG OR OFF THE TRACK OF THE QUESTION-- make sure you answer the question instead of keep repeating it. Just make a point and move on ( I did really bad for this point)
7...... there are some more but I will add some more later..
Time for STUDY:P

Face it

Today is not going really well. Even though I did things that I love so much, i.e. dancing and playing piano, I am still feeling a bit down now. There is something going on my mind, something that I cannot get it out of my heart for a long time. Probably it is time for me to see things clearly and not lying to myself anymore. Sometimes truth is not nice, even hurtful, but it will become worse when you just leave it there and not face it. Be brave to face it, that is what I need to tell myself now. You will probably miss something, or lose something right now, but if you don't face it then you will never solve the problem and you will never feel happier....

Reflection

I went to talk to someone today and reflected back on what I have done so far. Amazingly I found out that I have been achieving so much but yet I am still unsatisfied. But after talking to her, I realized that I am so far from where I was before. Really far. Even I am proud of myself for being able to do so much.

From this, I think sometimes it is necessary for someone to reflect back what one has achieved or how far one has been going. It will certainly give you the energy to keep going further. Life has never been easy but take as much as you can, but still remember to appreciate what you have been achieving and know that whatever happens has its own purpose to make you grow.

Quotes

'If you can't take care of both, then don't have both. Choose one' (Devin Lee)=)