True Friends

Many things have happened in my life, but lately I do wonder who my true friends really are. As life goes on, I keep meeting new people. Amazing people. Then one day I realise, which of these people truly want to be my friend? And I realise when I am at the top, everyone wants to be my friend. Everyone wants to go out with me, but a true friend and only a true friend will always be there when I am down, when I need their support. It is the time in my life when I start questioning who my true friends really are. I can start to see people's true faces. Those I claim my best friends, are they really are my best friends? Or are they really are only my best friends when I am on the top? Will I ever find a true friend who will be there for me when I am down and need a friend's support? A question to be answered in the future and only I can find the answer to that.

Thoughts from seminars

Yesterday, I went to the last session of a parish renewal seminar. The program taught us how to get in touch with divine being. There are a few things that really caught my heart and I learnt and saw my life differently because of them.

The first one is that in this life we have to have goals. This might sound simple and easily understand, but sometimes we forget this. At one time, we can have many goals in different areas and in order to be a successful "human being" ( as it is said by Father Justin), we have to be able to balance our goals. More specifically, what I get from this is that the theory also applies to relationship. In a relationship, two people are trying to fit into each other life's, but yet they are two different people with different backgrounds and importantly goals. The only way to make the relationship successful is to have the same goals. When you have the same goals, then you can work to achive them together. Without common goals, a couple will only get further apart from each other and thus resulting in breaking up.

The second one is positive attitude. It might sound simple to just say it, but tell you truly that it is extremely hard to do. I think the most important things are to value yourself and realised that you are unique and also to think positively about others. It is really hard to do. There was one time when I did it successfully. I learnt how to see only the good things in people. Well, not completely ignoring their bads, but trying to tell myself that even though they have their bads, they are still beautiful and unique in their own ways. I did it BEFORE, but for some reasons, I am failed now. I changed and started to see things negatively. It is not good, but it happened to me and from this seminar, I realised of what I did. I turned myself in the wrong direction. Now, I want to turn it back. To think positively about others.

The third one is to love. Your life is not about being right but about loving. This caught my heart too and I realised that I was always trying to be right and concentrating on that within my family, within my friends circle and even in my past relationship. When I was doing that, I forgot to love them. I was concentrating on putting my ideas up and telling them that mine are the correct ones. I forgot that I am supposed to love them, not to force my ideas on them.

Thinking back about these, I realised that there are a lot of things that I wish I can change, but they are my past now and I cannot turn back. The only way I can correct myself is to turn myself into the right way and hopefully everything will be better.

Love and hate

People said love and hate are separated by a very thin line. Once you step through the line, you are in different region. I think it is true. You will not hate someone unless you love the person in the first place. And when you hate someone, you will keep thinking about the person and finally you see them differently and love them. There is an insignificant border between love and hate. Can you sit on the fence between the two, where you love someone, but yet you hate the person?

Education vs. Mr/Mrs Right

One day I was talking to my friend and we were talking about relationship and how the percentage of divorce has been increasing now. We were wondering what are supposed to be done to know who is Mr/Mrs Right for oneself. Suddenly she told me that one of her friend came into a conclusion saying like this "education is not good for love. the higher you go in education level, the more clueless you are about love. You forget to use your heart and you use more brains more often". I might be agreeing to this, except that I have been using my heart before and I thought I found my Mr. Right. However, things didn't go the way I thought it would. I gave everything for him and listened to my heart. At the end, I left with tears everyday because of him. Now I am wondering if I should be listening to my brain, should I?

Keep going and don't look back

Sometimes we have to make decisions. It will never be easy but one thing to be remembered is that once we made the decisions, stick with it and don't look back. It may not be an easy choice that we take, but there is no time to regret. So instead of regreting what we have made, why don't we keep going with our lives, and think about what we are going to do with the next decision we need to make. The world is not waiting for you to finish regreting what you have made. The world keeps going, so you should too.

Jack of all trades, master of none

I was talking to my sisters yesterday about a lot of stuff. Then somehow she said about this sentence ' Jack of all trades master of none'. This actually reminds me to instropect myself and the results are that I know lately I have been acting like one. I mean I did a lot of stuff without actually mastering all of them rightly. This is actually a good reminder so that now I am thinking to stop and think first and decide what do I actually want. I don't want to be ' Jack of all trades master of none'. It is better to learn specific things but being good at them rather than being able to do a million things but only up to a basic level.
Once more time, don't be a 'Jack of all trades master of none'.

Happiness

Why do you want to have the whole world when you have no one to share it with? What a lonely life you are having there. You will be happier when you have someone to share your achievement no matter how small it is and when you have someone who is proud of you. Happiness doesn't equal to having the whole world, but equals to having someone to share and be proud of who you are.